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I came to know you through a comment on thelovebug's journal and thought to myself, "He should be my friend" so I went ahead and added you, just to find that you were not accepting any new memberships. Bummer! Bad timing on my part.

Without knowing the full details of what happened, it seems that those 3 people hid journal entries from you. Giving them the benefit of the doubt, it might simply have been a 'protect the innocent' filter, you being the innocent.

When I first started the journal it was 100% public. I too have nothing to hide, and if I have something to hide, I would hardly put it down on the internet somewhere where it will get backed up umpteen times. Then about a year later, a point came in my life where I used the journal as a sole means of venting my frustration. The content of the journal became so vulnerable that it seemed that limiting it to just friends who had grown to know me as the only sane way to proceed, so I went back and converted every entry into friends-only. Now that I have stabilized a little bit emotionally, filtering everything seemed excessive, so I am in the process of making public about half my journal, and now when I post something I make it public if it is not too personal, friends-only if it is not generic (ie, building up from events in the past), and a rare private entry if I think it will be bothersome to anyone besides myself. Still this does not mean that I am hiding; only revealing myself to those who might care. If anyone wants, I can easily let them see every single entry.

Sorry, that got long. I only relate my habit to illustrate the point that what anyone did to you might not have been them excluding you, but including only those who it related to. Also, the events of now are so much more important to all of us as compared to what happened yesterday or will happen tomorrow. How we feel about something today may not hold the same intensity of feeling tomorrow and we feel foolish for having exaggerated emotion relating that event. At least I do.

While I am no one at all to give advice, I'll say this to you because you seem hurt by people and I can empathize: Don't let others dictate your behaviour. Proceed as you normally would, as is comfortable for you. Why let any part of your life be influenced by any negative element?

PS: Please be at complete liberty to delete this comment for whatever reason.

Hiya. I'm on your friends list and as you probably won't see any posts in my journal I thought it worth explaining why. A while back, when I noted that I don't update my journal much and people might be unhappy about that, someone said to me that I should write for myself not to be popular or for other people.

This is something I've largely taken to heart and so a lot of what I write these days is things really personal to me or Sarah, or semi-confidential musings about work. Now and then you'll see a friends-only post with news I'd like to share but that's about it. Sorry to anyone else reading this who expects different, but those are the ways I deal with lj now as I've got fed up of the muttering and gossiping that can happen.

I don't know the history of the events you mentioned but you've always come across as a fairly decent guy despite, as you say, the few faults everyone has.

As far as I'm concerned... you're a decent guy and have a great personality. Please be assured if I have or ever do/say anything to offened you, it was never intentional.
As for the 'friends' you mentioned... it's there loss if you decided to filter your posts.

Ian, you're a decent guy and valued mate. The very fact you care about others and how they view you says this in itself. What brought this on? I'm around on Yahoo if you want to chat about it. I am happy to give you honest advice on situations but hey, you knew that.

As for the filters, I don't use them, either, but I do understand why people do sometiems. It depends on how people view their journals (Again, happy to go into detail my thoughts on this.) In a nutshell, if the 3 people have made posts about *you* behind your back by filtering u out for example, then yes, you have every right to be cross. I do think sometimes though people have their own reasons for making a filter, say to share a particular private thing with their closest friends.

you seem a decent and genuine guy to me. I dont like so called friends filtering posts either. Not that im aware that im filtered but if i was and found out, id filter them right out for good! lol. But as ive read katy has said there are SOME legitimate reasons for filters i guess. I do photos and soon i will filter them but that is for genuine thought for others. Not everyone is going to want to see me plastered all over their pages lol.
Im quite strict on the friends list i have. if theres any hint of trouble or bitchyness my list will get smaller and replaced by better people as far as im concerned. Me too old to worry about friends not really being friends so i try to work out a good judge of people.
Your a great guy from what i know of you from here. Is all i can say :-)